Why Couples Therapy Doesn’t Work For People In Abusive Relationships With Narcissists By Shahida Arabi, Bestselling Author As an author who has corresponded with thousands of survivors of narcissistic partners, I have heard horror stories of those who attended couples therapy with their abusive and narcissistic partners. The National Domestic Violence Hotline does not recommend … Read more

11 Things You Should NEVER Do With A Narcissist: Harm Reduction With Toxic Manipulators By Shahida Arabi, Bestselling Author Throughout the years that I’ve spent researching emotional abuse as a self-help author, I’ve communicated with thousands of survivors of narcissistic individuals as well as many manipulation experts. I have learned that there are certain things … Read more

Toxic Cocktails: Stonewalling and Gaslighting By Peg Streep Of all the pernicious relational patterns, two stand out: stonewalling and gaslighting. These unhealthy forms of manipulation show up in relationships between adults but also in adult-child connections where they do long-lasting damage. Unfortunately, children who experience either or both grow up to be adults who often … Read more

14 Thought-Control Tactics Narcissists Use to Confuse and Dominate You By Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., MFT Narcissists’ lives are about winning, generally at others’ expense. Many narcissists pursue a win-at-all-costs, anything-goes approach. The casualties: Honesty, empathy and reciprocity. Narcissists distort the truth through disinformation, oversimplifying, ridiculing and sowing doubt. Narcissists can be incredibly skilled at using … Read more

7 Ways to Extinguish Gaslighting By Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D The term “gaslighting” has been coined from a 1944 movie in which a husband who is trying to steal his wife’s inheritance convinces her that she is imagining things when she starts to notice odd and furtive behavior on his part. Their gas lights flicker whenever … Read more

Signs of emotional abuse “Emotional abuse is domestic abuse, and it’s crucial that we all learn the early warning signs and call out controlling and coercive behaviour when we see it. Classic warning signs include: love bombing (when your new partner is excessively attentive and keen to rush through the early stages of a new … Read more

Emotional abuse: ‘My fiance seemed perfect – but he wanted to control me’ This Article is taken from The BBC website [https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-49022703] and was published on 6 August 2019   When Anna, an actress, fell in love with an older and more successful actor he seemed like the perfect man. They quickly became engaged – … Read more

This article originally appeared in Psychology Today on Jan 22nd 2017. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-warning-signs-gaslighting-in-relationships   11 Warning Signs of Gaslighting in Relationships Gaslighting is a manipulation tactic used to gain power. And it works too well. Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality. … Read more