4 Ways to Respond to Hostile Comments

BIFF: 4 Ways to Respond to Hostile Comments Get respect with responses that are brief, informative, friendly, and firm. Posted Sep 30, 2018 Hostile comments can show up anywhere, including in emails, letters, on Facebook, comments to internet articles, and in-person. Should you ignore them? React in the same hostile tone? Or is there a … Read more

How you respond to hostile communications may impact your relationships

HOW TO GIVE A BIFF RESPONSE www.HighConflictInstitute.com www.biffresponse.com All Rights Reserved: © 2007 by Bill Eddy Hostile email, texts and other electronic communications have become much more common over the past decade. Most of this is just “venting,” and has little real significance. However, when people are involved in a formal conflict (a divorce, a … Read more

The Real Effect of Narcissistic Parenting on Children

Original Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ie/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201802/the-real-effect-narcissistic-parenting-children#:~:text=The%20child%20is%20often%20shamed,re%2Dparent%20themselves%20in%20adulthood. Narcissists raise children who suffer from crippling self-doubt. Why does it matter if a parent is a narcissist? How does that hurt a child? You may be asking these questions if you are a person co-parenting with a narcissistic ex; someone raised by a narcissistic parent; one who is in a relationship with a narcissist; or maybe … Read more

Narcissists Never Talk About What They Did To Hurt You, Only How You Reacted

Narcissists Never Talk About What They Did To Hurt You, Only How You Reacted Narcissists are some of the worst people to have a conflict with because instead of working through the issues you’re both facing with one another, the narcissist closes off drastically. Instead of owning up to what they did to upset you, … Read more

COERCIVE CONTROL

COERCIVE CONTROL By: Christine Louis de Canonville {Please see information about Christine, her website and her books at the bottom of this page} WHAT IS COERCIVE CONTROL? Coercive control is a pattern of psychological and emotional behaviours (i.e. intimidation, humiliation, threats, etc.) that enforces the perpetrator’s rules on a victim through varying levels of abuse … Read more

Why Couples Therapy Doesn’t Work For People In Abusive Relationships With Narcissists

Why Couples Therapy Doesn’t Work For People In Abusive Relationships With Narcissists By Shahida Arabi, Bestselling Author As an author who has corresponded with thousands of survivors of narcissistic partners, I have heard horror stories of those who attended couples therapy with their abusive and narcissistic partners. The National Domestic Violence Hotline does not recommend … Read more

11 Things You Should NEVER Do With A Narcissist: Harm Reduction With Toxic Manipulators

11 Things You Should NEVER Do With A Narcissist: Harm Reduction With Toxic Manipulators By Shahida Arabi, Bestselling Author Throughout the years that I’ve spent researching emotional abuse as a self-help author, I’ve communicated with thousands of survivors of narcissistic individuals as well as many manipulation experts. I have learned that there are certain things … Read more

Toxic Cocktails: Stonewalling and Gaslighting

Toxic Cocktails: Stonewalling and Gaslighting By Peg Streep Of all the pernicious relational patterns, two stand out: stonewalling and gaslighting. These unhealthy forms of manipulation show up in relationships between adults but also in adult-child connections where they do long-lasting damage. Unfortunately, children who experience either or both grow up to be adults who often … Read more

14 Thought-Control Tactics Narcissists Use to Confuse and Dominate You

14 Thought-Control Tactics Narcissists Use to Confuse and Dominate You By Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., MFT Narcissists’ lives are about winning, generally at others’ expense. Many narcissists pursue a win-at-all-costs, anything-goes approach. The casualties: Honesty, empathy and reciprocity. Narcissists distort the truth through disinformation, oversimplifying, ridiculing and sowing doubt. Narcissists can be incredibly skilled at using … Read more