COERCIVE CONTROL By: Christine Louis de Canonville {Please see information about Christine, her website and her books at the bottom of this page} WHAT IS COERCIVE CONTROL? Coercive control is a pattern of psychological and emotional behaviours (i.e. intimidation, humiliation, threats, etc.) that enforces the perpetrator’s rules on a victim through varying levels of abuse … Read more
Why Couples Therapy Doesn’t Work For People In Abusive Relationships With Narcissists By Shahida Arabi, Bestselling Author As an author who has corresponded with thousands of survivors of narcissistic partners, I have heard horror stories of those who attended couples therapy with their abusive and narcissistic partners. The National Domestic Violence Hotline does not recommend … Read more
11 Things You Should NEVER Do With A Narcissist: Harm Reduction With Toxic Manipulators By Shahida Arabi, Bestselling Author Throughout the years that I’ve spent researching emotional abuse as a self-help author, I’ve communicated with thousands of survivors of narcissistic individuals as well as many manipulation experts. I have learned that there are certain things … Read more
Toxic Cocktails: Stonewalling and Gaslighting By Peg Streep Of all the pernicious relational patterns, two stand out: stonewalling and gaslighting. These unhealthy forms of manipulation show up in relationships between adults but also in adult-child connections where they do long-lasting damage. Unfortunately, children who experience either or both grow up to be adults who often … Read more
14 Thought-Control Tactics Narcissists Use to Confuse and Dominate You By Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., MFT Narcissists’ lives are about winning, generally at others’ expense. Many narcissists pursue a win-at-all-costs, anything-goes approach. The casualties: Honesty, empathy and reciprocity. Narcissists distort the truth through disinformation, oversimplifying, ridiculing and sowing doubt. Narcissists can be incredibly skilled at using … Read more
7 Ways to Extinguish Gaslighting By Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D The term “gaslighting” has been coined from a 1944 movie in which a husband who is trying to steal his wife’s inheritance convinces her that she is imagining things when she starts to notice odd and furtive behavior on his part. Their gas lights flicker whenever … Read more
Signs of emotional abuse “Emotional abuse is domestic abuse, and it’s crucial that we all learn the early warning signs and call out controlling and coercive behaviour when we see it. Classic warning signs include: love bombing (when your new partner is excessively attentive and keen to rush through the early stages of a new … Read more
Emotional abuse: ‘My fiance seemed perfect – but he wanted to control me’ This Article is taken from The BBC website [https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-49022703] and was published on 6 August 2019 When Anna, an actress, fell in love with an older and more successful actor he seemed like the perfect man. They quickly became engaged – … Read more
Am I a terrible person for thinking that? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/am-i-normal/201110/intrusive-thoughts-normal-or-not Posted on Psychology Today’s website on Oct 24, 2011 Anger, fantasies, fear, despair, and obsessions—what is normal and what is not? Is your husband drinking too much? When does sadness become depression? What do those thoughts about your best friend’s wife really mean? We hope to … Read more
How to Avoid Over-Thinking 1. When you feel bogged down and you can’t clear your mind, do something physical or get some exercise. 2. Set a time limit for your “thinking time” then make yourself move on to doing something else. 3. Interrupt the thinking process or distract yourself by diverting your attention onto something very … Read more
